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Write The Breakup Letter, But Don’t Send It

Sarah McMahon
3 min readMay 3, 2021

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I have a habit of writing letters to the men who break my heart. Sometimes, I send them but most of the time I don’t. I don’t think I ever should. So I’m sharing one with the internet instead, in the hopes that someone else finds this just as therapeutic. Xoxo.

Hi [Insert Common White Man Name Here],

I’m not here to profess my love. I’m not here to reiterate exactly how and why you hurt me. I’m not here to tell you how selfish you are, either. You already know that. You actually told me that a long time ago, and I should have believed you. Fool me once, and shame.

I hate that I want you so much. And I hate that one of the reasons I want you so much is that you’re categorically unavailable. When I asked you what you wanted in a relationship, you couldn’t even tell me, out of fear, maybe, or simply not knowing. I don’t blame you, necessarily, for running away from the thing you want most. It is clear that you want love and are simultaneously afraid of it. I understand that fear, too. We are not so unalike.

One of the hallmark signs of an avoidant man is valuing freedom over everything. So, considering the needs of another human probably seems like an infringement on your freedom. I’ve met so many men who are like this, who want the freedom to do whatever they please but also want the love and…

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Sarah McMahon
Sarah McMahon

Written by Sarah McMahon

Sales Professional | Blogger | Ultra Runner @mcmountain work email: sarah.mcmahon@ticketsignup.io personal email: sarahrose.writer@gmail.com

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