Keeping the Promises You Make to Yourself

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“Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes

Today I’m writing about confidence, the polar opposite of desperation and wise older sibling to cockiness. If you close your eyes right now, I’m sure you can picture someone you know who is cocky and doesn’t that just irk you? Confidence is something to be earned while cockiness is a symptom. One is showy, the other is self-assured. One is overstated and inauthentic and the other is poised.

I believe that the best way to increase confidence is to consistently keep the promises you make to yourself. You can’t grow self-assured about anything until you have proven your own competency to yourself, and you can’t grow competent until you show up.

I’ve known many people who make promises they never keep. Whether it’s a friend making a plan they never intend to follow through on, a business not returning your phone call, or a workplace not fulfilling their end of a compensation plan, we all know what it’s like to encounter flakey, inconsistent people. You probably don’t like or respect them very much, right? It’s hard to trust someone who doesn’t show that they’re trustworthy, which is why confidence comes from trusting yourself. When I was in school, I…